Recently, I spent time camping in the south of Tasmania with a group of Year 7 students and at one point our local GP and friend came to visit for a night. We were camped at his property and he flew down to ensure the students were having a good time. He took them exploring through a secret cave and taught them about the history and unique flora and fauna of Tasmania. It was fascinating for the students, but it was the way he interacted with them that was most striking, most impressive, and that most enhanced their experience. Yet, it was his interest in the students that connected him to them.
Celebrate the Positive
In general, when someone shares good news with you, there are 4 ways you might respond. ACR builds trust, connection, intimacy, and satisfaction in your relationships. It also boosts your own overall well-being and reduces conflict.
Active and constructive responding is the most effective way to respond, giving both the deliverer of good news and the listener a positive outcome. The other three ways include passive and constructive, active and destructive, and passive and destructive. How do you react to a friend when they share good news? Imagine your partner comes home from work and announces that she received a promotion at work. There are many ways in which you could respond to this news. I knew they would recognize your hard work.
Have you ever had good news to share with the world and no one seemed to care as much as you did? Once, when I received an offer from a prestigious university to create and deliver a coaching diploma program and I successfully completed it after a few stressful months of changes in direction, I told a friend my news. I was proud to share my completion news with her as she had supported me throughout the uncertainty. She acknowledged the victory.