Takeaway: Pain is the major reason people don't do more butt stuff. Fortunately, it's often avoidable. What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure?
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. If done right, anal sex can be can great way to stimulate a major pleasure point. It could also be caused by moving too quickly, not giving the muscles in the anus enough time to relax. Both these situations are common and not cause for concern, unless the pain is severe or lasts more than a few days.
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A little preparation will help a lot. One of the common misconceptions is that anal sex will hurt, weaken or damage the anal muscles. People have enjoyed anal sex for many years without ever causing damage. The way they do that is by never going further than what feels good. You can do something else on those occasions and have anal sex another time. There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good.
Talk to your partner about the prospect. Also, the "accidentally-slipping-it-in" move is an asshole thing to do. You can cause serious damage by pulling a stunt like that. Considering the nightmare that can come out of there after a night at a Mexican buffet, I can see how people would think that. It makes clean-up that much easier. Oh, and stay the away from KY Jelly — that stuff is about a 4 where the average rectal PH is about a 6. This hyper-osmotic nature of the lube can cause cell dehydration and cell death and make the surrounding tissue more susceptible to infections or diseases. Everything you'll ever need to know about sex lubes. These are good if you have trouble getting lube in with your fingers, toys, or tool. Easy to use and less mess.