The impression you'd get from looking at our culture around us save for a few Cialis commercials is that sex is for young people only. Take most TV shows, and you'll see sweaty young things writhing around with one another while anyone over 40 gets cut away as soon as they kiss. But getting older doesn't mean sex leaves your life. We're seriously impressed. And those older men and women enjoying sex lives?
I have noticed an interesting trend on Facebook lately. Women my age, meaning us midlifers, are sharing intimate details about our sexuality. Like honing pigeons, we are finding each other, being open on our thoughts about sex and aging and lending support. We are discussing how we are rediscovering, or quite possibly, just being more open about the fact that we are still sensual, sexy, desirable and, yes, horny. We are expressing frustration how society views us as we enter or are in menopause. A few years ago, a close friend of mine shared a story with me about joining an online dating service for 'mature' singles. She had just turned 60 and, get this, she was told that she was too old! She was refunded her money, explaining that men her age or even older were only interested in women under This woman is beautiful! Hear me when I say gorgeous!
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Do women want steamy sex or just a companionable cuddle? Bettina Arndt reveals what really gets women going. What do most women of a certain age want? Melbourne-based psychiatry professor Lorraine Dennerstein conducted path-breaking research on menopause which found many women reported a drop in libido at this stage of life.
Join AARP at 1 p. ET Tuesday for a live call-in coronavirus tele-town hall. Pre-register by phone now. But what about everyone else's? In a survey that's still under way, more than 8, people over 50 have already revealed what happens in their relationships — and in their bedrooms. Read on for a look at 14 survey questions, think about how you would answer and see how you stack up with the results thus far. Then take the larger survey yourself. See the sidebar below to learn how.